A LITTLE HELP FROM MY FRIENDS......PLEASE...

[Alessandra]

If you are reading this....you are my friend. And I do need some help. I am 'thinking' myself out of my job. I want out but I don't want it to go the way it has been heading.....ie I am willing myself to be fired (or that is my fear) and I can see how that could happen....not because they don't like me, not because I am not competent at my job, not because I am not needed at my job, not because I don't care about my job or do it well...but because my job bores me...even when I am busy......and so I am not 'engaged' with it anymore....becoming less so all of the time. But I need to do this in a positive manner......not just 'let it happen'....but make it a conscious choice....and have a plan. Have a plan....and this is where juice feasting comes in....this is where you come in..... help me brainstorm, see my way clear to a plan...which I will let unfold rather than worry to death the details...but I have to live with awareness.....

I can do anything.......I believe in myself.....I know my higher self is amazing........I am amazing......but I need help remembering that, realizing that, truly believing that.........I am amazing.......and I have much to offer.....much to give.....

[Alessandra]

Well now, I have to get a bit more creative as I am sure my husband will not want us to be in any more debt. I have spent money on things like YTB (Your Travel Biz) and OnStage Marketing (they teach you how to do network marketing....) but I just wasn't able to get into YTB (even though the local people could not have been more supportive...) and after my dad died last year I fell off of the network marketing classes...honestly...not sure I could continue making all those phone calls....taking all that time away from my family...it was almost working....almost...but I never made a dime from either of them...what is my passion??? Raw Foods..but I have to be sucessful at it to be able to do it is my opinion though I could get involved in some things on the side...this town seems to have a fair number of raw foodists...but no decent juice bars anymore (used to have one...actually there is one...but it is limited in my opinion)...I love being a health advocate....connecting people with health issues with info so that can truly heal as I believe that if you are sick and truly want to get better you can....without the drugs (poison), slashing (surgery) and burning (chemo & radiation)....which just do not make sense to me.....and I love nature...used to live outdoors when I was a child...now I live indoors though I am trying to change that....still haven't sat down to do that meditation...work has been too busy...seriously..and thankfully I have gotten my mind into a much better place on that regard....no longer being job suicidal..lol.....thank you so much everyone for you feedback.....

[MaryB]

Alessandra - I financed school with subsidized student loans and by working. Took some penny pinching, but I didn't have time for a life anyway... ;-)

Wild Rose - Completely agree; that is part of the planning process... you need to know Who You Want To Be.

[WildRose]

I think the most important step is doing some meditation/reflection/soul searching to be honest with yourself and find (or RE-find) what it is you truly DO want to do. Because what is the point of forcing yourself out of one job, and then maybe finding yourself in another different job that maybe quells the boredom for a bit, but then you find yourself still not doing your life's calling down the road. Do you know what your life's calling is, or what you've always truly loved to do? You could start doing whatever this is on the side in some capacity as you ease yourself out of your current work.

Just a thought. xo

[Alessandra]

Thank you Mary...it does help......I do need to do something like that.....how did you finance school? I never got my degree.....took lots of classes....but didn't really have a focus. But I do need to sit down with myself and find out what it is I really want......

[MaryB]

Alessandra - I'm glad you are feeling better today. I went through your job crisis a few years ago and have since doubled my salary and am doing something exciting that makes a positive difference at my organization. I had a very concrete way of mapping out my goal:

I took a blank piece of paper and drew a pyramid of squares. The first row had four squares, second row had three rows, third had two, fourth had one. In the bottom left square, I put where I am today. In my case, it was "Facility Manager, BS in Recreation Mgmt." In the top square, I put where I wanted to be. In my case, it was "Upper Mgmt for US Govt; where I can make positive change". I then used the other squares to figure out the steps to get me from A to Z. My steps included getting an MBA and MS in Finance Mgmt, getting a job in the federal government, move into mgmt within govt, etc. I am currently a supervisor in the federal government and probably five years from my ultimate job. Four years ago, I was feeling like I was stagnating in my position. I could do the job with my eyes closed; even though I was busy, I wasn't challenged.

My other comment is that I realized in my experience that my feelings were my choice. I recognized that I wasn't challenged. So, I volunteered for projects at work that excited me (even if it wasn't in my department), challenged myself outside of work (went back to school at night), and made a conscious choice to be grateful for my job as a stepping stone on the path to Who I Want To Be.

Hope this helps a little...

Have a great day!

[Alessandra]

Thank you Kelly...actually things are feeling much better this morning....I do tend to get so neurotic sometimes, don't really think they are thinking of letting me go......but it is a sign from my inner self, that I do want to go....I do and I don't....as it is a good job....but I do get bored. So, will explore the possibilities......
Thanks again for your support. Today is a good day. Will be successfully 100% juice....so restarting to juice feast......that is always good.

[Kellygirl's Raw]

Well it seems like you have the right idea. Positive thinking is the way to a more positive future. Keep saying positive affirmations to your self...inner self talk makes a huge difference in your experience you are drawing to yourself. You absolutely are amazing, and you can have what you want...Spend more time thinking about where you DO want to be...The job that you would love...Attract that to you. If you keep your mind in that direction opportunities will open themselves to you. Getting fired isn't the solution...walking away to a better job offer sounds a lot better. Keep focused on the positive and where you want to be....concentrating on what you don't want will only hold you in that pattern.

You are doing great things for yourself, you know the way...decide what you want and keep your eye on the prize!

Keep up the positive self talk.

Love and Light*